Dear Alexander #003: Write Your Own Book

You love learning, experimenting and pushing yourself to higher level’s through the daily pursuit of excellence you set for yourself. You attempt to do this in large part through soaking in as much enriching educational content as possible. It almost seem’s almost unconscionable to miss the next Tim Ferrisspodcast or Gary Vaynerchuk video.

You will always be a student. You’re dedicating this current time in your 20s for a state of mass learning through various outlets. The list of book’s you have to purchase totals thousands of dollars. Your ‘Watch Later’ on YouTube can top 40 video’s at times. Your email’s continue to grow because as you go off to transcribe an article onto your website, another arrives in your inbox. You love asking deep questions to those you admire.

As Robert Moore would say you are very strong in the ‘Magician’ archetype.

Hence you love the idea of being ‘the knower’ — the ritual elder who guides himself and those around him with a deep well of powerful knowledge. You aim to experience and understand your reality with a large degree of profundity that few know.

You have a great capacity to think and ponder. You have used this in conjunction with the ‘Warrior archetype’ to act with audacity and relentlessness many a time. However, you can become very unbalanced in this aspect if you are not careful, disciplined and patient.

A Word Warning:

Your ‘fear of missing out’ can poison you into a state of limbo. You wish you could sleep less so you could spend more time creating and learning. You could finally spend more time checking off all those thing’s to watch, read listen to, and eventually do. To paraphrase Robert Moore,

“Be careful not to fall into the trap of being the man who thinks too much. Who stands back from life and never lives it. Be wary not to be caught in a web of pro’s and cons about your decisions and loose yourself in a labyrinth of reflective meanderings from which you cannot extricate yourself.

Do not be the man who is too afraid to live and ‘leap into battle’ because he is too busy sitting on his rock thinking. The years will pass and you will wonder where the time has gone. Do not go too far and end up regretting a life of sterility.”

Never be so afraid of making a decision that you make none at all.


To balance this archetypal energy in you, you will eventually get to a point in your life where you will cull almost everything. You will get to a point where you will massively reduce the degree to which you to consume and create media. By the time you read this again, you may be much closer to making that decision. Or you may already be living through it. Honor this liberating change by letting your intuition flow freely. Know, it is the right decision.

You will no doubt question yourself if it is the right one. Once again, trust the intuition of your heart and soul that you have honed for all these years. Trust the knowledge and experience you have built and cultivated through all those years of work.

Do not fear though, you will not stop growing. You are simply changing the medium’s to which you interface and catalyze your growth. Instead of predominately learning through the incredible resource of the internet. You will most likely move to enriching face to face human interaction’s, restorative boundary pushing experiences, and maybe a few book’s here and there. It will make you uncomfortable at first as you reflect on all the ground breaking thought provoking inspiring thing’s you may be missing out on through the platforms you obsessively consume. But this process will teach you how to be at peace with not knowing what you don’t know.

Understand: Often times you don’t need any more information. Be at peace that you know enough. This may sound counterintuitive to self-growth, but when you come from a place of trying to consume as much water from the fire hose as possible you know this is the right move.

Remember Alexander, just because you know more, doesn’t mean you are grounded with the information you know. The most important book in our lives is our self reflection. Write your own book…

 

 

 

 

Dear Alexander #002: Doing The Right Thing Is Always The Right Thing

When your faced with a challenge that causes you to question which path you should take.

Take the path that does right by the other person.

Even if it causes you physical, emotional and/or financial burden, take the path where you own responsibility for your actions.

It’s easy to run and choose the path of least resistance in a situation that doesn’t seem to have grand consequence in the whole scheme of things.

But it matters…because how you do anything is how you do everything.

If you start slipping on the small things before you know it you may start slipping on the things that have great significance and consequence.

But before you get too caught up in yourself, don’t forget about the person you may have wronged or disrespected.

While you think they are not like you — they are just like you.

Always be the bigger man. And not just when it’s convenient to be so.

When you have caused imbalance and disruption it’s your responsibility to restore equilibrium.

The situation may not end in your favor.

But the lesson is invaluable.

So in fact the situation did end in your favor.

Because you did the right thing.

 

Dear Alexander #001: Patience

The following series titled ‘Dear Alexander’ marks the beginning of a new collection of memoirs to my future self. These videos and they’re accompanying writings are created first and foremost, for myself. This is a very self-oriented endeavor, the purpose ISN’T to tell anyone how to live. Instead, it’s so I can have something tangible to reflect on over my lifetime. Through this reflection I’m able to remind myself of previous philosophies and beliefs I hold, or held. Over the years I’ve discovered most of our beliefs and philosophies are indoctrinated into us from a young age. Most people’s values are never questioned or challenged. So this is my way of questioning the things I believe and think to determine if they are still serving me, or whether I need to alter them. This will help me stay accountable to making sure everything I think and say aligns with my actions. Hopefully vicariously in the process it will cause other’s to question what they believe.

 

The society around you is going to show and tell you the faster you do something, the better you are. The media and culture you live in will always sell you the genius outlier whose accomplished 10x more whilst being half your age. They want to sell you on a hazy dream and a reality that is not your own. They’re not going to talk about patience.

This is why listening to society is a bad idea.
If you listen to society then the world’s on fire, everyone’s going to be a millionaire, have a 6 pack, all with a side of champagne and superstar models.

Don’t fall for the illusion they want to sell you. Or rather, don’t get distracted by the illusion.

Stay the course.

One of your biggest flaw’s and biggest strengths, is your ‘patiently impatient’.

You want so much. You want to conquer the world — you want to conquer your world. But at the same time you understand how long this will take. You are hammering away at the world’s biggest stone day after day. You want all the diamond inside, but at the same time you don’t. You know the process, the game, the grind, is what you live for. You thirst for the spoils of rich’s from your expedition, but at the same you never want’s the expedition to end. You fight against this duality daily, like a caterpillar wanting to be a butterfly too soon.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Source.

If I could wish anything on you right now it would be to know how your 25, 30, 40, 50 year old self will feel like. I know you think 25, 30 and 40 is old as fuck right now, and that you expect yourself to have x and y accomplished by then. But life is so long, it’s just that we waste so much of it.

Understand: By the time you get to those ages, even older, you’re going to just be hitting your cadence, and be saying something like this to yourself,

“I barley feel like I’m even getting started.”